"-- even that wasted I knew to not make out with him at all costs, though," I say. "So he cracked - this is weird - a lot of boys do this. If you dodge giving them a clear-cut yes or no signal for long enough, they crack - I think of it as cracking - and then they just end up telling you their problems."
I say, "It's true! And weird. They're all -- 'Sex, sex!' and then suddenly it's like, 'I'm lonely.'"
He says, "Actually, girls do a kind of similar thing, but for girls it happens if you make out with them for too long without fingering them. It's some kind of threshold thing, and the time kinda varies, but it ends up like: get your hand in her panties within twenty minutes, or listen to her problems for two hours."